@Dutchess_III
Am not even gonna entertain the “does anyone else in the house work”, “or the being ganged upon” statements. I have a suspicious feeling you are this type of parent. That’s why you are responding this way. First off, I am not a child, let alone an emotional one. I am not “mad at my mommy”, which sounds very condescending by they way. Its sounds quite premature to assume that. I have knowm my mother all my life. The sun can not shine for a day, and that alone can enrage her. What you seemed to have missed from what I initally said, was that her behavior is not limited to just us. She has issues with supervisors and coworkers, even customers because of her narc. ways. She always has to control the situaltion, when there is nothing to keep under control. I know of a lot of childhood issues that she has talked about that has influenced her behavior. She even said she has not figured out a way to stop being so angry for unknown reasons. I am not a very emotional, sentimental, entitled, sensitive, or bratty daughter. I rather analize rationally amd logically before looking at things from just a feeling that I may feel. I try to be as kind and understanding towards her as possible. But with her, saying the right or wrong thing, is whatever she thinks it is. And just for the heck of it, she’ll try to intimidate you with a verbal whipping. let’s get back to the small issue I initially mentioned about the cars. Listen, you can’ t realistically say or even rationalize someone getting angry and verbally abusive to – “hey, can you drive your car today to work and we’ll use this other car for the trip since it’s more realible”. If I asked a mental expert, I am pretty sure what the answer would be. If it made sense that she rationally got angry, then all the other times she made things enconvenient (imagined or not) for use, we inappropriately stayed calm and complied, inapproriately. The rational thing would have been to get angry and verbally abuse too. Just to be fair.
@canidmajor
I am thankful that you get what I am saying. One of the unforseen issue with posting certain things like this online, is that you could possibly come across someone with the same personally issue that you are discussing, and just their insistance on seeing the obvious and explanatory topic, tells you they are alike. Narcissist are such “gas lighters”. They are the hardest people to reach on any matter. They have catch phrases that they use to entrap others. They like for people to think they are doing harm to them. And those who accept such behavior ard eith narcissist themselves, or another believer of a Narcissist. You can tell when something is really wrong when someone can’t understand something simple, and would defiently stand on one mindset with plause. You can show a man what red looks like, but if he feels like being differ for the heck of it, that beep will be green if he says it is.