^^ Exactly. What are we to do? Are we supposed to guess, and assume, that what our friend is saying is not true? Are we supposed to read his questions, and then just not answer them? He asks for help, we offer sound advice, he chooses not to take it, then we get chastized for giving him advice that could actually help, and then we get told that we don’t know the situation.
This all just leaves me scratching my head. If the main problem is that our friend lives in a bad neighborhood, maybe his relative should help him to move to a better place.
Our friend has never mentioned to us that he is living in a high crime area. He has told us repeatedly that he is afraid and anxious about a whole host of things, and has felt that way for most of his life. Those are the things he tells us, and those are the things he asks about.
He has problems, but he is not a child, and we have to treat him like any other adult that comes here and asks similar questions.
If the Mods think that there is something else going in here, behind the scenes, or regarding the family dynamic, maybe they ought to discuss it with our friend and his mother, behind the scenes, and then let us know if we need to stop giving advice to people who ask for assistance.
We all have our friend’s best interest in mind. That is why we tailor our advice, with actual links to sites that can be useful to him. I don’t think anyone is trying to be a jerk.