No matter what I say to you, someone, somewhere, will “attack” me or my answer.
But, I’ll answer anyway.
In the details section of your initial post, you wrote, “I want to sell my laptop.” The key word in that statement, is the word, “MY.”
So, we know that it is YOUR laptop and not your husband’s, so, applying the “laws of equality” here, you don’t NEED his permission or “authorization,” IMHO, to sell something that isn’t his, and which never belonged to him, in the first place.
I would never presume to tell my wife what to do, unless it was an emergency situation where her life was in danger (“Duck! NOW!”). Other than that, my attitude towards her (in a situation such as yours) would be, “Your property, your choice.”
Ideally, a marriage should be a 50–50 partnership, with NO ONE as “the boss,” and a husband should let his wife make up her own mind, with regards to her own things.
The wife should give the same kind of respect to her husband, regarding his things.
This means that if HE bought and paid for the TV in the living room, then he has lifetime custody of the remote, and she should never go near it, without written permission.
August 25, 2008, 5:10 AM EDT