I am not making judgments about people or their inherent worth. Lets get that right from the beginning. But we are not robots, and much as we have taste in art, architecture, and interior design, we find certain individuals attractive, and others not so attractive,

I am talking about, some people are so attractive to other people that they are moved to tears.

When I first was drawn to my GF the attraction was physical, to the point that she was all I thought about night and day—although our mutual friends, though thinking she was more attractive than most, most said she was nowhere near knock-out gorgeous.

There are some people EVERYONE seems to think attractive, and there are some whom everyone says is attractive that we quite frankly don’t see the attraction.

There are people regarded as attractive that actually look a bit scruffy. There are also those who have attractive features that we like, such as hair color, eye color, even build, but do not find attractive.

And there are people who are just butt ugly.

So why are we wired to find some people attractive and some unattractive or repulsive?

This is not about the worth of a person, or our ability to bond with such people. One of my best friends is repulsively overweight, but I am not repulsed because this individual and I are close and I am not the least bit repulsed. We do things together but I wouldn’t date her romantically.

And I think it can also be said that ultimately it is not a person’s physical attractiveness that forms bonds, friendships, or even maritial relations, although physical attraction may have been the first draw.