I am 5’0”. He is 5’8”. So when I wear even my tallest heels (4 inches)I am still significantly shorter than him. I rarely wear the crazy tall ones though. He complains about it all the time and even tells me not to wear them. I have a thing for shoes as most women do… I have always collected them and everyone know this is a part of who I am.

He has always been insecure about his height but I ABSOLUTLY don’t care about it. He seems perfectly normal to me and I’ve never wanted anyone else.

I know he was bullied as a kid but no one “picks” on him as an adult.

I am upset because he has been making me feel really bad lately about wearing what I want. He makes comments like “is that really what you are going to wear?” and it hurts my feelings. It makes me feel like I look like a clown or something. I like to buy heels and when he sees I got a new pair he rolls his eyes. Last time he said “where the F*** are you gonna wear those?”

I got dressed up for a fancy event we were going to recently and my outfit was really cute and he said “I hate when you wear heels, quit wearing them.”

I never tell him what to wear or not wear. Even if I don’t like something he wears I would never tell him to take it off.

How do I deal with him trying to control what I wear? Do you think it’s normal for a partner to have a say in how the other dresses? Where do I draw the line on what is ok and not ok?