Give yourself 5 days to cry, and be by yourself. Then stop, and give yourself 10 minutes a day to feel shitty and sad, but start being busy, and useful, and making yourself healthy.
If you allow yourself to be alone, and wallow in your sadness for more than a week, you will indeed sink into deeper despair.
If you feel like you can’t climb out of the sadness hole, consider getting some short term therapy to help you to cope.
Being busy, and useful to other people, who need some help, doesn’t give you a lot of time to wallow in sadness. Just make sure you are being helpful to the folks who appreciate it, not just anybody.
Find the elderly neighbors on your street and make them some brownies, or cookies, or offer to do an errand for them while you are at the store.
Make some homemade cards for the folks at your local nursing home.
Volunteer to socialize puppies or kittens at your local shelter.
Offer to mow someone’s lawn, or shovel snow off of their walkway.
Being busy, and useful helps other people, but it also helps you. Please check back with us and let us know how you are doing.