What are your strengths? Augment and indulge them. What are your weaknesses? Figure out how to let go of them.
You sound doting but misapplied. You sound loyal, sincere and cute… but perhaps there are a shortage of sandwiches at your picnic?
True, marriage isn’t what it used to be. Our global, capitalist culture has become much more demanding… we can’t afford to enjoy life as much, for we have become tools. We are all mercenaries now, and frankly, we cannot afford to stick with jobs or relationships that treat us poorly. We have to change, adapt, and prepare to move on ever more quickly.
When your wife looks at you, she sees the rest of her life and she doesn’t like it. So, why sit there and play the role of yesterday’s luggage?
Engage yourself, find yourself, enjoy your new freedom, give yourself a voice and a meaning apart from her. If you really believe that you “couldn’t possibly live without her”, then you’ll go a long way toward fulfilling that prophecy—but really, why bother? You didn’t come into this world attached to her. Why not be more original, clean up your act, figure out a way to give back to and engage society, make new friends, strengthen your existing friendships and alliances, put some ads out on personals, create some social networking profiles?
Get busy and get fun again. Enjoy life… if she doesn’t need you, then you certainly don’t need her.