Deaths of family and friends- I miss them but I can’t do anything about that.
Starting a business- Interesting and not easy but I like what I do
Marriage- He married the hell out of me and I am happy <3
Medical adventures- Type 1 diabetes at 25 years old. Big adjustment but all is well.It makes one appreciate the little things and that is never bad.
MS ten years ago- That offers surprise challenges from time to time.I have no choice but to deal with it and I do.I can’t carry my husband on my back anymore but I am alright with that. XD actually I kind of wish I could still do that, but whatever
I’ve also learned a lot more about people I thought I knew well.
I am a strong person but then I don’t have much of a choice in some matters so I just deal with it as most people would.
It doesn’t serve me to bitch and ruminate on things I can’t do anything about.
As for changes like a big move for instance, I’d be looking at that as an adventure.Get your ducks in a row to make things go smoothly.
I try not to let fear run things for me. So far, so good.

I’ve had 2 big changes.

1. I got sober. I was an active alcoholic for about 16 years. Getting sober has greatly improved my quality of life.

2. Coming out of the closet. Living authentically as a gay man has given me a great deal of happiness. It is much better than living a lie.

Becoming a dad!
Nothing comes close to that change for me, without doubt the proudest & best two experiences of my life.

I got a kinda heads up because my wife had two kids from a previous marriage, they were seven & nine at the time we became serious about our relationship.
So I took them on along with her, the full package!

That was invaluable experience as four years later & then three further, we had our own kids.
My wife had to reverse a procedure in order for us to become a complete family & so no two kids could have been planned more.

As always when it comes to talking about my wife & kids, I wind up rambling on lol but hey…they’re my world man!

A boyfriend committed suicide when I was 25 and I found him.
My advice is to not let a horrible point in your life define and control you.
I have been close to death twice in the past two years. I hope these two events have made me appreciate life more.

Loss of a child.

Failing out of university. Got taken a few pegs down. Finally recovering after 20 years of grief.

Thank you all for your frank answers!
It helped me adjust my focus on what I feel is needed.
Kudos.