I like Allie’s suggestion of an activity on a date. You don’t want to be overly personal too soon.
But if something uncomfortable gets blurted during the conversation then just add ”...but I’m all better now.” So, if you accidentally say,
”...the last time I had a restraining order filed against me…” or
”...and then I moved to the compound in Montana…” or
”...I swear I never touched her sister…”
”...that was already my second strike so…”
”... the inner circle elders said they always liked me best…”
…be sure to follow it with ”...but I’m all better now”. That way they might think you just have an odd sense of humor. You’ll get to know them before they realize you’re serious, and by then you’ve got them tucked away somewhere. :^>