I always insisted on dutch the first 1 or 2 dates but sometimes the guy would insist on it because they would say they asked me on a date.
But I believe it really depends on their experience. There was a guy that I dated once who asked me out on a date and insisted he would pay and then complained about the price of the meal and wouldn’t tip the waiter or let me tip the waiter. I never saw the cheapskate again. For that and because my meal consisted of a steady flow of information about his ex-wife. But it’s a good indicator of whether or not the person is a cheapskate.
But I did have a general belief that the person who asked the other person out on a date should be the one to pay the cost of the date. If I asked a female friend to go to a movie with me because I wanted the company and I knew they didn’t have money for the movie or wasn’t so interested in that type of movie, then I paid their way.
People who may have dated people who were cheapskates may end up rejecting guys who didn’t pay. You can be independent and yet have test to gauge whether someone may have issues with money.
There are some old fashion rules that sometimes pan out. My mom use to say if a guy won’t go to your home to meet your folks its because he doesn’t plan to stick around or is up to no good and if he sits in his car and honks his horn for you to come out than he sees you are not worthy of any real effort.
She wasn’t wrong. A lot of my sisters boyfriend would do exactly that. Some behaviors are indicators of the type of person you may be dating and whether they are worthy of a second date. Just like I knew guys who wouldn’t date a girl the second time around if they felt she wasn’t going to put out or if she wanted him to pay for everything she fancy on a first date because they felt it was a good indicator that she was looking for a sugar daddy.