First, I’m very sorry you had to live through the terrible experience you had. But take some encouragement from the fact you did live through it. That makes everything else possible.

As far as rushing into a relationship just to blend into the “normal ” world, don’t force yourself. Everyone heals from trauma in their own way, and in their own time. Besides that, the normal world isn’t everything it seems to be ;)

Sex is something people share when they both feel ready. And sometimes waiting makes it better.

You are obviously brave, and strong.
You survived something you should not have experienced. People who pressure or tease are jerks. Don’t let them make you feel bad.
Having sex when you are not emotionally ready, is like raping yourself.
Love yourself. Be true to your own feelings and needs. Take as long as you need.
If someone gives you a hard time, look at them with an expression like they laughed and made a fart. Soon enough they will back off.
Worthwhile friends won’t treat you like that.

Is it weird that I’m still a virgin?
No.

But is there anything wrong with this?
No.

Should I listen and fold to social norm and pressure and force myself to do something I am not really ready for or comfortable with?
Absolutely not.

Do not do something you are not ready for. Some people can just have casual sex and not give it a second thought- some can’t. Everyone is wired differently.

ONLY DO WHAT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH

If therapy is an option, do it. You have nothing wrong with you. Therapy can help you heal. I have never experienced abuse as a child, but I have been a victim of rape. 2 years after, I pushed myself when I wasn’t ready to have sex and it took a huge mental toll on me. Therapy can help so that when you are ready to have sex again, you don’t put yourself mentally backwards, or re-traumatize yourself. It is a slow and long process but you can do it. It is important that you wait until you are ready

“No”. is a complete sentence and any man/woman/ANYBODY who pushes after a no is an asshole

“Virginity” isn’t even real. It’s a bullshit societal thing and it needlessly pressure people into doing things they aren’t ready for. Fuck that, you move at your own pace. You are fine. I promise.

Just try to look into therapy, support groups, anything to help you. Even if you aren’t struggling anymore as a result in other ways, there is a chance that just jumping into sex blindly can cause issues. Just try and get some support and move at your own pace.

Of course you shouldn’t do something you’re not ready for or comfortable with. That said, having intimacy with another person (and yes, sexual intimacy is part of that for most couples) is an important part of the human experience. If you never pursue sexual relationships going forward, your life may be less fulfilling than it otherwise could be. IMO, I think it might be a good idea to begin the process of becoming ready to pursue an adult relationship that might lead to sex at some point. It may take years and lots of therapy, but I think it’s worth beginning that process. To be clear, I’m not advocating getting intimate with someone right away, just to make the goal that you want to eventually get to the point where you are ready should the right woman and circumstances present themselves.

And if you want to be asexual, that’s of course your call too. There’s nothing wrong with that option either if that’s how you feel.

For what it’s worth, I waited to lose my virginity until I was “in love,” passing on opportunities for sex with women I wasn’t in love with. In retrospect, that was stupid and I would have been better off screwing every half-attractive woman willing to do so. But that’s me and my own regrets. I’d been fed a bunch of bullshit about how sex was this sacred act or something.

Theres nothing wrong with being a virgin. No you shouldn’t force yourself to do something your not comfortable with.