Wow, some female anger showing up here.
@Dutchess_III says that she has to ask 50 times for a guy to do something. Three questions:
- is a guy supposed to take everything a woman asks as an order and as gospel?
– is the rule to drop everything and do it at her behest, regardless of what he is doing or thinking?
– is a man not allowed to think for himself, analyze the situation, and then responmd accordingly?
Men aren’t automatons, nor are they mindless. Perhaps if the women were more attuned to how men feel about what they are being nagged about, and their autonomy as males, there would be less nagging necessary.
Perhaps nagging is a reaction to a perceived female loss of control? Men traditionally (although not as much any more) controlled just about everything in the family or the tribe – female nagging may have developed as a means of female control over something—meaning that this was a manifestation of an attempt to be powerful in a milieu where they were otherwise powerless.
There’s research to be done here. In households where there is a strong female (makes more money, has a more responsible job, a leadership professional), does the less strong male nag more? In other words is it a gender thing or a power thing to nag?
And what about lesbian and gay households? What’s the nagging dynamic there?
Final question – at one point does a nagging woman produce a henpecked spouse? henpecked
/ˈhenpekt/
adjectiveINFORMAL
continually criticized and given orders by one’s wife or female partner (typically used of a man).
“his father, a henpecked husband, is petrified to raise a voice”