If it’s only when he showers, I wouldn’t worry about it.

Have you asked him why he does that? He could be stressed out and it is a way to release tension.
How does talking in the shower relates to him not being happy to be with you?
Why are you making this about you?

I’ve talked to myself in the shower before. It’s a private place and kind of meditative. It’s not something I do often, but when I do I think I’m mostly running through a difficult conversation I might have to make at work that day or something like that. Like roleplaying out how I should ask for a raise, terminate a contract with a vendor that I’m friendly with, or discipline an employee, etc.

Shoot, I talk to myself even when I’m not in the shower! And I agree with @Yeahright – what does it have to do with him not being happy with you?? Maybe he’s happy being with himself…enjoys his own company!

He’s conditioned himself to do
It. More of us would do it were we not concerned so much about appearances. Does he talk in his sleep as well?

Holy crap! I do it, too!

You are inventing reasons to distrust him. Back off.

@stanleybmanly “Conditioned?” hehehe

Ain’t English somethin?

It could be he is just very relaxed in the shower and pleased to be with you.

The only thing you can conclude from him talking and laughing while he’s alone is that he’s got a vivid imagination.
Some recent fun moment occurs to him and he comments about it to himself… harmless.
Maybe he’s reviewing his responses to situations to improve his social skills or sense of humor. When he comes up with a doozie then of course he should enjoy it and laugh why not.
Maybe you got a deep thinker on your hands. Are you jealous of his internal attention?

or he could be running the shower but on his phone sitting on the toilet seat?
Otherwise, so what its a release for him.

I doubt it has anything to do with him being unpleased by being with you. While I don’t sing in the shower. I have a friend that has even done it in the locker room showers. I think it’s more of a thing to help relax while in there. Talking to himself, might be a little different though. As long as he’s not on his phone while in there. You should ask him though, I’m sure he has a logical explanation.

Hello Folks!

Thank you for your messages!
I think I will not ask him why he is talking to himself but just let him enjoy his shower time :)
I guess that I was a bit insecure being with him, which makes me relate to him not being happy with me.
In general, he is a very calm, quiet and deep thinker. Sometimes I can not understand what he is thinking. But maybe that’s his personality :)

@peachy2019 Great that all the opinions here helped you revise your own.
That said, I would ask him. You need to feel free to talk about anything with your SO and not keep these things inside.
At the end of the day, we are a bunch of strangers, better ask him directly.

The shower is an excellent opportunity to think out loud.

I’m wondering if you are old enough for a boyfriend. The shower, for many people, is where creative ideas are born, songs are written and sung, and talking through problems takes place.