It sounds like your friendship has run its course. You have probably noticed by this time in your life that some of the people you were good friends with in high school and college have drifted away from each other because you really have nothing in common anymore. That sounds like what has happened here. Some friends drift away for a few years and reconnect later in life. Maybe this will happen to this friendship. But in the meantime it seems you both are struggling to have conversations because you have nothing in common.
I wouldn’t make an effort to connect with her, but if she texts, text back. It costs nothing to be cordial.

I have a numerous friends come and go over the many years. It is tough to keep momentum going for friendships sometimes.
If she is worth keeping, tell her how you feel. You don’t have to go into a lot of detail, but just state that since shutdowns you have been feeling cut off about life. Then ask if she can find a couple of hours to spend together, and help you regain some balance.
Otherwise, expect things to fizzle, fade, and soon be gone.

No, you are not a bad person.

Friendships wax and wane, run their course. Some from when we are in our teens will last a lifetime, some will disappear by the time we are 20. I have college friends for over 40 years that I talk to regularly, others that I have not talked to since we moved away from University.

No, in fact, I’d say she is being the bad friend if anyone. No one likes a one-sided conversation and it makes it much harder when one person is being impolite and making it all about them.

“Listen more than you talk.

Avoid conversational narcissism. Ask those you converse with interesting and thoughtful questions. People love to talk about themselves. Don’t ask what someone does and leave it at that. Ask them what the hardest part of their job is, how the future of their profession looks.”

People want to talk about things that are new and exciting to them. When someone has a new baby they tend to talk about nothing else. A new job or new career works the same. This may be temporary or maybe you’re simply moving on to a new phase in your lives. Only you can decide whether the journey is worth it. When I went back to school to get my degree, I was in my 50s. College classes were new to me and I was excited to get my degree after all these years. I talked about it a lot and that gave me the incentive to keep going. Did I alienate some of my friends with my incessant drivel, I don’t know. It was a phase that got me through.

@Jaxk were you interested when people talked about their things? Did you turn the conversation back to your courses when someone attempted to talk about something else?

Sometimes you just grow out of friendships, or other relationships. I had a friend that I used to talk to all the time. At least two or three times a week, and often more, we would just talk on the phone for 2–3 hours at a time. We were both weather geeks, and had a lot of other interests. But then we drifted apart a bit and when I would call her up, she had become one of these people that just complains about everything all the time. I also noticed, that she would make borderline racist statements about groups of people and I was totally turned off by that. And so I just called less and less, and she really didn’t call me anymore, and that was that. Maybe I would be more sad if she hadn’t seem to be turning more racist, which is weird because normally you don’t go in that direction at that age of your life. I don’t know. Sometimes I think back about how much fun we had talking to each other and I miss it, but if somebody changes and you no longer share the same values or the same enjoyment of things, then should you really be sad about it?

@Mimishu1995 – I’m not saying your friend is not being a jerk, just saying that people tend to talk about new interests. Maybe its just a phase or maybe you’re just drifting apart. Same can be said if you’re not interested in your friends conversation.

@Jaxk but even when excited about a new topic, etc., a good friend wouldn’t monopolize the conversation.