I was in charge of organizing fundraising and this big event for a non-profit at work. We have an HR coordinator to assist me with what I need and I rely on her for help with this too. Yesterday at the event I noticed she was wearing one of the shirts I was selling for the fundraiser….but she never made a donation as required.

I know because the donation site under her name is $0 but she registered. I am really bothered that she just took a shirt without telling me and not making a donation. I don’t think it is fair if everyone had to make a donation to get one and she did not…and she knows the requirements.

Is it worth following up to ask her if she made donation yet for the shirt before I report our results? I fear that I would create tension between us and a toxic work environment somehow. Should I let it go? I am really put off by this. At the same time, I think maybe let it go because I did raise enough money that would ‘cover’ her payment and we have a ton of shirts leftover that will just sit there.