@rebbel “With the advancement of erotic toys”? Eh, I think this situation has been going on for a long time, with or without erotic toys, and that probably (?) erotic toys are not changing the situation very much.
I think this question shows a particularly male focus on insecurity about male sexual performance and anxiety about whether women will find men desirable or necessary. I think that’s what’s really behind the asking of this question, and also behind a ton of other things in our culture, and a driving force behind misogyny. That is, men tend to be terrified they’ll lose the approval/love of the women in their lives, fear/deny their own inadequacy and not being needed, and so try to create needs, sometimes in the form of unequal pay, unequal laws, unequal social expectations, notions of men being needed to provide for and protect women, some romantic ideals and conventions that involve men being desperately needed, physical abuse, etc etc.
Men obsess over sexual performance and their inadequacy far more than women do, though it’s true that the majority of women don’t tend to climax from only penis/vagina intercourse. A lot of that happens, again, because of male insecurity and women being rightly cautious about triggering men by talking openly about such things.