I know people who would be great parents (I think) but don’t have kids, and I know people who don’t have kids and I think it’s for the best, because I can’t imagine them with kids. Some people that I know, I can’t imagine how a kid would fit into their lives, but yet I know when people have kids, they tend to become more flexible, just because a kid forces you to do that whether you want to or not.
My daughter is a young teen, so she’s still at the point where she’s not hanging out on her own, without me or another parent driving her, so she’s still kind of under my watch. I tend to be a laid back parent, and flexible and easy going, and luckily she’s a good kid. If her behavior changes, I’m going to have to change my tactics.
I was telling someone recently that what you don’t realize before you have kids is that forever after, you’re going to be worried about this person. Worried about their mental and physical health. Worried about their school work. Worried about their development. In the future, I can imagine being worried about who my daughter dates, etc. I’m not a person who worries a lot, and I’m definitely not anxious, but I can only hope for the best as far as my daughter is concerned. I think about things I did when I was a young adult – partying, fooling around with guys, hanging out, and if my daughter did those same things, I wouldn’t be happy but yet much of it is just normal growing up. When I was a young adult, drinking and driving laws were not so strict, there were no cell phones and everybody photographing and videoing everything like now, with everything on social media, and so many things were different and in that way, easier.