@tinyfaery: It had groups of types of “Development” described that happen broadly between those ages. That doesn’t mean that a 13 year old is no different than an 18 year old -not by a long long stretch. It means that these are the things that develop within the time frame. So, you’ve made the opposite point.
@niki: The burden falls on the shoulders of the adult because they are the adult. Different states treat this differently because some recognize an increasing ability to consent depending on the situation. If you don’t want an age limit, ask yourself “what if she’s 14? 13? 12?” There’s some age that you think this is just creepy and wrong, and I bet you’d consider him to have been “preying on a child”. So, if there needs to be a line what do you think it should be?
@Hobbes: The girl’s family wouldn’t have to hire a lawyer. The prosecutor would do that if they deemed the case worthy of prosecution. Or did you mean the expense of a lawyer to the 18 year old man?
@poof: I hear you. The idea that I’m arguing against is that parents have “no control” over this sort of thing unless they follow the teen 24/7. You mentioned school hours, and I think you can be reasonably sure what’s going on at school. You can have as tight or as loose restrictions on a teen’s non-school hours as need be. If you as a parent sense something going on that shouldn’t be, you do more about it. If you got the chance to go to dances and had time to hang out with friends when you were a teen, that sounds like your dad wasn’t exactly stalking you. :^>
Having said all this, if I was the parent of the girl involved I’d still have a talk and good long think before I’d try to have him arrested. It would depend a lot what I thought of the particulars of the situation.