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So on Christmas I found out that I’m pregnant. This is unexpected to me because me and my husband were not planning on having kids until 2 years from now. Our living situation and financial situation is not stable. We live with my family and with a lot of cats and dog in the house. It’s a scary experience because we dont know what to do. A part of us is for abortion because its stressful environment we are in. My oldest sister is pregnant and have a 6 month old baby that my mom already taking care of and I dont want to burden her even more. But a part of us know if we go through abortion there’s always a what if and how things will turn out. It’s a sense of regret, if we had our own place and finacially stable maybe the decision will be easier.
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In my experience, I’ve seen more people financially benefit from having children than not.
For one, I’ve heard them say it motivated them to succeed. Then they received favorable treatment, either from government or family. In the long run children also act as support systems for people in their old age.
It’s not always economically sound on paper, but with 7 billion humans running around it seems like its a very popular decision.
Well, I would say just ask your inner self. Do you really want to have this child?
Like the answer above… Having a child can be a great motivation to get through rough times, having a child gives a sense of responsibility and because of this you work hard for your loved ones.
The ultimate decision will be yours to make. Just search deep within your heart, you will definitely find the answer.
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Seems like you are trying to establish that feeling. Pro-life or pro-choice no one suffers any delusion that pregnancy is anything less than the necessary condition to produce human life.
She’s already considering regretting that dire decision. So, why take such a hurtful jab at her. She understands abortion and doesn’t need a cliché ethical response.
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It’s no easy discussion. If you really care about the life of the child maybe have more tact, and present some anecdote.
I agree with @Chestnut. My sister put her baby up for adoption without ever seeing her 50 years ago, and the daughter looked her up from DNA testing last year. They are happy to be reunited.
Adoption does sound like an alternative you might consider.
How do you know someone will feel guilty @skyerobinson032708? I don’t feel guilty.
Tough situation. Have you considered letting a couple pay your expenses to adopt your unborn child?
I wish you and your child the best in future.
Update: so me and my husband decide to keep the baby. My husband is going to find a job and we will slowly move out of my mom’s place. We thought about abortion, but we want to give the baby a chance and there’s always going to be a what if. We even thought about adoption but we dont want to feel guilty knowing that our child is out there with someone and maybe not getting the care and love from the parents. We still have a lot of maturing and growing up ourselves but we want to be the best parent we can be when the baby comes
Good luck! It sounds like you are mature because you looked at all of your possibilities and decided what was best for you and your baby.
Come back to Fluther as you need advice on babies because we have some really great moms and dads here.
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