Some of you may be familiar with my story here: https://www.fluther.com/231293/discovered-a-half-sibling-on-23andme-should-i-tell-them-who/

Long story short, a half niece found me via 23andMe…we thought we were cousins but she found out her dad is my half sibling and that her grandma lied to them their whole lives about their ethnicity and the bio dad. They always suspected the lie though.

The niece was excited and wanted to get to know us and meet us but struggled to tell her dad. But ever since she confronted her grandma and she revealed my dad was her real grandpa she no longer wants to meet. She said she was still processing but will be in touch in the future. She won’t tell us what her grandma said due to privacy and she still didn’t tell her father. My dad had no idea this was his son for 50 years, according to his side of the story and was open to meeting after the intiial shock and several ongoing talks but scared of what my mom would think and we were planning on how to let her know. This was before they met by the way.

I am wondering what her grandma might have told her. She was so eager to meet and when we asked to meet for coffee or brunch she just said she will be in touch but it’s been several days.