@Pandora Yes, adoption is expensive. My ex and I looked into adoption and the minimum was $20,000 25 years ago, and that wasn’t even for an infant. It’s just another business – the business of selling children. I don’t mean that no one in the business has a heart or good intentions, but let’s call it what it is. My dad would now and then ask my ex and I when we were going to get a child. I asked him to please stop asking, that it was expensive and painful. I admit that this was a little bitchy and mean and I regret it, but I said, “What did you guys pay for me?” He said around $500 – the fee for the hospital (where the mother gave birth).
If only there were some way to get people who wanted a baby together with a person who didn’t want their baby, things would be perfect. Instead, we hear about the black market and women giving birth and throwing the baby away, literally. Hell, in my “wholesome” midwestern town, a woman recently gave birth on a sidewalk in 22 degree weather, then simply walked away. Thanks to strangers who saw it, it was saved. Can you imagine what went on in the thinking of that tiny brain? left on an icy cold hard surface, no loving arms to shield it or voice to murmur in its ear? Even with no words to describe it, it must have felt emotional as well as physical pain. I tend to believe that a part of that little soul has been damaged irrevocably. It will never have the words to say what happened, but some small part will always have to live with not being wanted.
I’d hate to see orphanages make a comeback, but like you, I think it will happen. Then the state will pay! After the damage is done.