First I just want to say that, I am prepared for negative responses to this question but I’m of course, hoping for honesty and maybe even some sort of comfort through the pain.

We’ve had an emotional affair for years. Just recently, he got caught. After consistent contact every second for years, it abruptly ended. I was of course devastated but I knew that begging and all of that was wrong. It was all wrong. Our relationship started out with me having to dig and find out that he was married, we talked casually after that and then it escalated. Now that’s he’s abruptly cut contact with me I can no longer say that he was in love and caught feelings but I sure did. He called me a few times after he got caught to talk to me about it and then nothing after that. His wife reached out to me with questions and I’ve honestly answered them just like he told me to do if she reached out and because I feel like I owe it to her. I sent him a very heartfelt message in the midst of this, prior to her reaching out and the response that I receive from him was about his child. He said his child comes first. The message that I sent him had nothing to do with either of our children. I was very confused as we’ve always stressed throughout our entire relationship how important our babies were to us. My child knew him and took a liking to him. I responded back telling him his that his child absolutely come first and that I was only asking for an explanation as to why he cut contact so abruptly. During one of the earlier phone calls, one of the last things that he said was that he loved me and to trust him. Honestly I’m not sure what I’m looking for, with wanting him to respond.. is it closure? Do you think that he will reach out? I don’t know. How do I heal from this? Any honest but respectful advice?