Frankly, the harshest punisment for most believers is just trying to understand the freaking nonsense in “canon law” that a small group of politicized bishops are using to manipulate their parishoners. The so-called “excommunication” isn’t even recognized by over half the diocheses in the country:
“On Sunday, two days after Cordileone posted his letter, Pelosi received Communion at a Jesuit church in Washington, where Cardinal Wilton Gregory, the archbishop of Washington, has signaled his opposition to the idea of barring politicians from Communion because of their views on abortion.”
https://www.washingtonpost.com/religion/2022/05/27/pelosi-barred-dioceses-communion/