I was friends with this girl when I was in middle school. Looking back, our friendship was not a very nice one. She only cared for herself and what she could get from me. I was basically her walking wallet. She didn’t care when I needed her for emotional support, acting like she wanted to conversation to be over fast. Not to mention other nasty things she did to me like stealing my things, provoking me into doing stupid things that I still regret, insulting me and my family when I angered her, or gaslighting me into blaming myself for her own fault. I stuck with her for years because she was the only friend I got. It was thanks to the kind people on Fluther that I finally got the courage to end our relationship and ghost her.

Around 2019, she started to try to reconnect with me. She tried messaging me on FB, commenting on my post. She somehow even dig out my current phone number that I don’t recall ever telling her. She has been messaging me for years from that point on. I tried to not give her any attention and ignore every single message of her. I want to make sure she got the message that I no longer want anything to do with her. But she has been persistent, sending me messages every important event and stuff for years.

And this morning, I woke up to my mom announcing that she was right outside my door. I didn’t ask her to come beforehand. She just came, without my approval.

I reluctantly went out with her. Through our conversation, I learned that she no longer has any friend because she is too busy with her children to tend to her social life. I have long suspected that the reason why she is so persistent is because I’m some kind of a last resort to her, and that kind of confirmed my suspicion. I also have this fear that she is just trying to lure me back in then continue the abuse again. And I don’t want any of that.

I talked to my parents that she was a manipulative friends and I don’t want anything with her now, but they didn’t understand the extend of her character. They told me to give her a chance because she is poor and stressed out by her kids and has no more friends, so I should just hang out with her out of pity. I don’t want any of that. I have had enough of her abuse and I refuse to let her control my life again. But I’m scared of what she is capable of doing to me. She has been stalking me for ages now. She just showed up at my door uninvited. She once deflamed me on FB because I couldn’t let her join my family’s trip to my grandma’s. She has proven to me to be the kind of person who can’t take no for an answer and will do anything just to get what she wants.

I just want her to leave me alone, but I’m not sure what to do. Do you have any idea what I can do in this situation?