I’ve always been a somewhat flirtatious lady, and in recent years I’ve toned it down a lot because people get the wrong idea and hearts get broken. But one thing I still struggle with is how to let people (specifically men, in my case) know that I like their friendship, but that it can’t be more than that. I don’t want to assume that every guy I like spending time with wants to have sex with me and be more than friends (a la the whole When Harry Met Sally theory that men and women can’t be friends), because that seems presumptuous. But I also don’t want to lead them on, or worse, betray the trust of the person I’m dating.

Topics: relationships, dating, women, men, friendship, boundaries