@chefl There are so many scenarios, you gave examples that would make my suggestion not be the wisest. It’s not always telling a spouse; it could be a parent or friend. Obviously, it depends on the situation. I sometimes tell people when I disagree with them, I don’t always just silently sit there and listen or always just agree to be supportive.
Let’s say a hurricane is coming, and you are complaining to your dad that you waited 30 minutes to get gas and the supermarkets had empty shelves. Your dad starts getting worried you are not prepared and keeps telling you to leave town and drive north away from the storm. You aren’t going to leave, but his pushing is to relieve his anxiety. Probably better not to talk to him about it at all, but he keeps calling you, because he sees the hurricane is coming, and during the conversation you make the mistake of complaining to him. Like I said he needs to fix it to feel better himself.
Or, complaining to your husband about working too many hours. You don’t want to quit. Your husband hates watching you overworked and keeps urging you to quit, because it is annoying to him that you complain and do nothing different to solve it. You want to be able to complain to unload your frustrations from the day.
My father might leave town as his solution to the hurricane, but his solution is not what would work for me, I don’t want to leave. I live where people evacuate to.