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Should you have a long distance relationship if there's no sex?

Asked by trishgirl52 (186points) September 11th, 2022
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kritiper's avatar

Romantic relationship? No.
Friend-ly relationship? Okay.

RayaHope's avatar

Sure nothing wrong with that :)

Forever_Free's avatar

A relationship (local or long distance) does not HAVE to include sexual intimacy.
LDR would indicate some kind of relationship. It also would mean that you would want to meet face to face from time to time. This could be with or without sex.
If it is a serious relationship, then there would be some discussion about each of your long term desires as LDR is impossible to keep up indefinitely. Mutual goals and mutual expectations would be discussed with movement to it not being Long Distance at some point. This might take years, but like any relationship there is a movement towards being together.
There is a difference between a friendship and a relationship whether local or long distance.

rebbel's avatar

Should you?
No.
Could you?
Yes.

jca2's avatar

In my opinion, if you are loyal to this person and missing out on possible other real life relationships, it is a waste of time. Just my opinion. I realize not everyone will agree with it.

janbb's avatar

Is this in regards to the man you asked about before who is jealous of the idea that you might have a relationship in person with someone else? If so, I would scrap it. If you want to have him as a friend, do it but it shouldn’t exclude you from a romantic relationship if that’s what you want.

SnipSnip's avatar

There is no rule. Do what you want to do. If you are a child talk to your mom.

JLeslie's avatar

Not enough information. Is this a brand new relationship? Married 20 years already? Why is there no sex, because you are apart?

We don’t know enough.

If you are young and the long distance relationship has no chance of ever having you both in the same place, then it doesn’t sound good to me.

JLoon's avatar

I insist that all my long distance relationships include sex – And so far Amazon Prime isn’t complaining.

elbanditoroso's avatar

You can try, @trishgirl52 but in my experience and in the experience of just about everyone I know – long distance relations fall apart. Some take a year, some take two years or longer – but they all fall apart. Every one for every person I have known who was in a LDR.

Remember the old saying: “Absence makes the heart go wander.”

seawulf575's avatar

My experience is that if you are looking for a lasting relationship…serious relationship not just pen pal type thing…it is not a great idea. There is a big difference between a platonic relationship and a long distance relationship. If you are long distance, you are not immediately in the other person’s life. They will do things that they won’t tell you about, other things will interfere with their time with you…too many ways to ruin the relationship.

smudges's avatar

Is this with the same guy who only responds to you with one-word answers?

Surely you know the answer to your question.

gorillapaws's avatar

You should only engage in sexual activity if you want to. Full stop.

If you don’t want sexual intimacy and he doesn’t either (for any number of reasons from medical limitations to low sex drive), and you guys satisfy each other’s needs for intimacy or companionship in other ways via long-distance communication, then I’m sure that could be a very healthy relationship.

That said, if one partner does want sexual intimacy and the other doesn’t or is using distance as a way to avoid sexual intimacy with a partner who does want it, then I think that’s not a healthy balance.

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