I have always been naturally flexible, what my sister called “freakishly strong”, and able to easily pick up sports and other physical activities/skills (hiking the AT, rock climbing, biking, scuba, etc.).

Now menopause has kicked my ass, I’ve blown out both of my knees, I’ve put on weight, I don’t sleep, and everything hurts.

I still have a healthy libido, but I don’t feel attractive and I am old and fat and therefore invisible. My relationship has been a celibate one for years.

How does one reconcile reality and time with a mentality that doesn’t want to accept it?