With someone you don’t know or don’t know well, when they do something to hurt you, you are not emotionally invested with that person so you can get angry very easily with them and “hate” them. When someone you love hurts you, it is someone you know, someone you have a close relationship with. There are many more events in your life with that person to throw into the mix of how you feel about that person. One aw-shit can wipe out a whole lot of atta-boy’s, but with someone you love, there are a whole lot of atta-boys. So you give that person more forgiveness that you do the other.
It’s called forgiveness, not approval. But forgiveness is not really about the other person, it is about you. When you hate someone, there are a whole lot of negative emotions involved with that. And those emotions hurt you a whole lot. They can destroy you as a person. Forgiveness is the way we deal with people that bring on those emotions. We don’t accept what they did or approve of it, but when we forgive, we are saying “I’m not giving you anymore power over me. Your actions are no longer going to tear up my life.” You can then move on and get over the negatives that are eating at you.