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If you wrote a note recommending a friend for a job, would you share what you had written with that friend?

Asked by janbb (62556points) April 28th, 2023
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One of my friends is losing his job and another friend is advertising a part time job that would be perfect for my first friend. I mentioned to Friend A that I thought this job would be great for him and he had already applied for it. I wasn’t asked for a reference but since I knew Friend B fairly well, I dropped him a casual note recommending Friend A.

I’m happy with what I’ve done. I am just curious if I should forward to Friend A what I wrote. I had told A that I was sending B a note and he has thanked me.

Your thoughts? (Putting this in General.)

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Forever_Free's avatar

I do it all the time and make sure they know what I stated so they are aware. This helps them if asked direct questions during an interview that may reference my statements.

janbb's avatar

@Forever_Free That’s kind of where I was coming from too.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Yes, I would also tell Friend A for the reason stated.

janbb's avatar

Update: I did forward it on to him and he is very appreciative “that you are looking out for me.”

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Call_Me_Jay's avatar

Yes, absolutely. I can’t imagine why not. As @Forever_Free stated, it gives your friend some info on what the prospective employer knows. When he touts the virtues you praised, the interviewer sees that his bragging is corroborated.

SnipSnip's avatar

It depends on my relationship with both the friend and the employer.

Poseidon's avatar

Of course I would .

I am recommending my friend for a job so I think it only right that the friend should know what I was saying about him/her.

Added to this if the friend knew I had written to their potential employers and even if you gave them a great recommendation but the friend did not get the job and he/she did not know what you said they may think that the recommendation was not a good one.

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