Like you, @RedDeerGuy1, I got assistance from some wise people who gave me tools and taught me how to use them to gain resilience. I also met some excellent therapists who guided me through the process of healing a lot of past trauma. That was very scary, but it became rewarding.
None of it would have simply fixed itself. It took a lot of work by myself with the good assistance of knowledgeable people. It is impossible to do that kind of healing by one’s self. It requires guides.
The tools were sobriety that was enhanced by instruction from other recovered alcoholics and therapy that was led by educated and empathetic people. Sobriety by itself was an excellent start, but the guides in that beginning did not have the expertise to help me heal trauma. That was done in great part in therapy.
Therapy was aided by meditation. I have learned through meditation how not to immediately react to what passes through my mind. I can observe and mull over matters and then react. That ability is not possible in a brain with unprocessed trauma. It is only possible after much work to heal trauma.
I also take medication for mental health difficulties. I am grateful that I have a medicine that works well, and I take it every day without fail.