Since we all start out as virgins there is nothing wrong with it. Deciding to change anything in your life requires at least some thought. Having sex is not a matter of moral, spiritual or physical health but rather a cultural choice. If you make a decision that flies in the face of cultural mores, you have to accept the consequences.
The idea that for a woman sex will send you to hell is fairly recent in history. Generally fertility has been celebrated and it is only in patriarchal cultures that who women have sex with has been limited because it’s all about “Who’s the Daddy?” Men have never been that into taking on unwanted responsibility.
It’s not about spiritually because sexual pleasure is a God-given gift. If we were not meant to enjoy sex we woud reproduce asexually like ferns.
And it’s not about health, plenty of people live happy, healthy lives without sex for years. Sorry guys you should try something else to clear up your zits.
For many women in our culture it is a good idea to wait for sex until they are ready for the emotional and physical commitment that goes along with being sexually active. Also everybody needs to understand that sexuality is not expressed as two points of yes or no but more as a plane (geometric) where there are infinite points where one can be. So it is a matter of telling the world, including random guys, to MYOB. This is one of those things where only the individual can decide. That requires knowing oneself very well and asking the right questions.
For a woman those might include:
1. Am I casual or committed in my relationships?
2. How would I handle rejection?
3. Am I looking for security?
4. Will I be with someone to avoid being alone?
5. Have I thought about the consequences of unwanted pregnancy?
6. Am I where I want to be in my life?
We can’t measure ourselves against anyone else, know yourself.