I’ve only had sex with two guys in my life. I was in a relationship with a guy for several years, and then we broke up. I hate him now, but I have to admit the sex was great. I met a new guy, and I’ve been with him for about a year now. I love him so much, and we have a much more emotional connection, and I enjoy our sex a lot, but I have one issue: His “member” is quite a bit larger in length and width, and I kept thinking that I would get used to it, but it still hurts sometimes. I’m not saying it’s all the time, but definitely when it first slides in I’m always surprised, and in some positions it would hurt for the first few thrusts if I didn’t tell him to slow down and be extra-gentle.

Yes, we do have adequate foreplay! In fact, sometimes we’ll have been doing it for a while in one position, and then when we switch to another one, I’ll have to get used to the size, but I didn’t notice it in the first position.

And no, he’s not too rough with me! He’s very gentle and loving in every way.

All my friends said, “oh, you’ll get used to it, and you’ll love it!” but it’s been a year!

Have you had a similar experience? Will it ever feel “just right” or will it always take me by surprise?

Also, there’s nothing wrong with me! I go to the appropriate doctors every year, and I am just fine in that department thank you very much!