Well it’s not that hard for me because I have a bad memory when it comes to these things. I don’t remember minor offenses/fights/insults etc and so it’s really a case of “out of sight, out of mind”. But there have been times when someone has come up to me like a year later or something and said “are you still mad about blah blah blah?” and then I always say “ooooh i completely forgot about that. But wow. yes. how could you do that? No you are not forgiven!”. haha. point is, don’t remind someone of ways you might have wronged them. There are only one or maybe 2 instances I can think of where I know I will not forget. I have indeed ‘forgiven”...whatever that means i mean, what does it really mean to forgive? how do you know when you have forgiven someone? When you don’t begrudge them that incident anymore?, but I will most definitely not forget.
I also don’t necessarily believe in the old adage of “let’s just forgive and forget”. The thing is, I think it’s stupid to just forget when it comes to major/crucial events because then you will most likely make the same mistake again. By not forgetting, you ensure that you aren’t harmed in that way ever again, because you know what you are looking for and if/when you see it, you can steer clear away from it.