I completely agree with Judi!
I have been down that road of trying to ‘save’ people with nothing but words and good intentions, it felt amazingly hollow. I gave up words long ago as anything more than explanation when someone asks why I do the things I do.
I decided to put the words away and ‘do’ things to express my concern for people, accepting them for who they are; where they are. That generally is so different than anything else they have ever seen that they talk for hours.
I have learned many painful lessons about trying to get another person or people to ‘change’. I find that when you accept a person and listen to them then they generally decide a new better course of action for themselves on thier own.
Sometimes I do get asked during the course of conversations what I would do, what I think God would want them to do. I always seem to have a couple of suggestions, one of which is always…”<shrug>...ask God, he will tell you what to do next.”