I’ve only been Fluthering a few weeks now. Perhaps I’m being a bit impatient. I love this forum! I know at the end of a long work day I now look forward to tapping the collective and reading what is on everyone’s minds.
I tend to add those with provactive questions or smart, succinct, informative answers. I generally look at their profile and previous questions. I’m looking you up now. . .
I add people based on whether I like the answers to questions that they give. If they are smart, informative, witty, if the answerer consistently adds to the collective, I add them. It doesn’t happen right away.
There are a lot of people that I like that I haven’t added.
Mostly because I haven’t gotten enough of a feel for them yet.
Then on other days, I’m tempted to go the Gailcalled route
and not have anyone in my fluther. Much simpler that way.
I suppose I gravitate towards people who make me laugh out loud and don’t take themselves too seriously. I understand the need of some to expound and lecture, but I’m more interested in “happy hour” as opposed to a college lecture. It’s cool. Everyone has their own agenda and that is what makes this forum so great. You can pick and chose those who’s views or thoughts mirror yours, or seek joy in the spattering of serious and off the wall responses.
Actually Nimis, I meant spattering because of the visual. I see it as a hodge-podge of thoughts and ideas. I’m glad you enjoy the visual as well! And wrestle…you were my first (blush). Thanks!
I only add people whose responses or input I like. Well, some people in my fluther are my arch-enemies – opinion-wise – but they are well spoken and rational enough to make the list.
I think adding people to your fluther depends on your agenda on fluther: whether you have hard-core ideals/views which you will reinforce by your selectiveness in choosing fellow flutherers, or if you’re just here to have fun, or if you’re looking for real answers.
It’s all about each individual in my opinion. I’m somewhere in-between myself. :)
It usually takes a while before I’ll add someone. Consistently well spoken (written?), thoughtful, intelligent, or hilarious Qs or As usually prompts an “add”.
Edit: Just read your profile and added you. I’ve enjoyed several of your Qs. The fact that I got a good giggle while reading your fields of expertise (children is listed right after cooking!) didn’t hurt either ; )