I completely agree with dynamic. A certain degree of nonchalance is a good thing. If it’s applied to not caring what people think of you in general because you’re you and that’s all there is to it, I love it. If a guy is nonchalant about everything, I feel like slapping him in the face, because it’s like, “What the fuck does this person care about? Anything?”. There’s always a balance to be struck.
I also agree with shadling: If I see someone that I’m initially attracted to but they seem nonchalant about everything I try to talk to them about or their attraction to me too, I will quickly lose interest.
nonchalant, nonchalant… nonchalance, nonchalance… Yep… Sounds funny.