I just had a daughter who was born a year ago with a multitude of medical problems. She has already had 5 surgeries and still has two more to come. I was 31 when I got pregnant and did everything right…I didn’t even take any aspirin or tylenol if I had a headache because I didn’t want the baby to have it. Well, after she was born I kept asking myself, what did I do wrong…and then I finally came to terms with it that I didn’t do anything wrong, this is how she was created. And it is a challenge, but she’s worth every minute of it. She was tested for 4 different genetic things, including Downs, and she didn’t have any…she just has this list of things that needed medical attention. I remember during the pregnancy thinking, what if my child is born with problems, and realizing that it didn’t matter, I would still love her and take of her regardless. I know that it doesn’t help in answering your question, and I like that you are looking at risk levels prior to becoming pregnant…because my daughter is a lot of work, but at some point you just have to say, yes, I’m willing to go forward with that risk or no, I’m not. Which, I think you are probably close to that point, but I want you to know that if you do have a baby with complications, it’s almost as if you are given more love for them because they need more help and then they end up blessing you in ways you never thought they would.
I also think that most pregnancies end up normal and that all mothers go through the same worrying that you are thinking about…it is very natural and normal.