@asmonet
Wow, I think it’s good that your one friend was able to recognize that she had a problem and dealt with it logically. Honestly, I’ve NEVER seen a borderline do that. All the borderlines I knew were “friends” but kept trying to screw me over and of course, had zero self-awareness. It scared me.
I encouraged one to go into the army because there’s no ambiguity there and there are rules for him to follow. Needless to say he loves it and I’m glad he’s not near me anymore.
The borderline I’m dealing with currently has been “stalking” me and others, and I avoid her, even running away when I see her and lying about where my dorm is.
I’m sorry, but I suppose my bad experiences with these people, unlike what you have, has taught me that I don’t want ANY in my personal life.