Maybe you are talking too much; a very good counselling technique is to ask a question; viz: Is there any way we can talk to each other? Can we take turns listening? Do you know that I care about you and want to connect better? How can I help?
It is amazing how much better your interlocutor will respond to a query rather than a broadside of your feelings, opinions, POV, needs, etc. Why is the tag restaurant? Is this an employee/ employer issue? If so, same technique; different language.