First, we explode. Argument, raised voices if necessary, sarcasm. Sparks fly. Pressure is released.
And then, on average usually about 15 minutes or half an hour later, we get back talking and say something like, “Okay, from a Laureth’s-eye view, [blank] is what happened.” And he says, “Well, from my side, it liiked like [this].” And we clear up what happened, fact-based, and are usually OK at the end of that.
It doesn’t take us that long to make peace, because neither one of us really wants to be fighting (not all couples can say that. After we allow the original ire to blow away, we get to where we can actually talk about things rather than fume or sulk or try to wound. It works for us.