Yourself: [yoor-self, yawr-, yohr-, yer-]
–pronoun, plural -selves [-selvz]
1. (an emphatic appositive of you or ye ): a letter you yourself wrote.
2. a reflexive form of you (used as the direct or indirect object of a verb or the object of a preposition): Don’t blame yourself. Did you ever ask yourself “why”? You can think for yourself.
3. Informal. (used in place of you, esp. in compound subjects, objects, and complements): Ted and yourself have been elected. We saw your sister and yourself at the game. People like yourselves always feel like that.
4. (used in absolute constructions): Yourself having so little money, how could they expect you to help?
5. your normal or customary self: You’ll soon be yourself again.
6. (used in place of you after as, than, or but): scholars as famous as yourselves; a girl no older than yourself.
7. oneself: The surest way is to do it yourself.
An apparently competent, even talented guy, who is actually troubled and uncertain; just trying to do the best he can, even as he feels like a pretty bad failure (and that’s on a good day).
same as 90s kid. I rarely am myself when ever i am with people. I would like to blend in with people but it seems that i just can’t . Maybe i am yet to find someone that share the same thoughts with me. I
yeah I sort of know how that is. :/
I’m not at ease with people and I don’t act myself at all…I’m all “secretive” like. People who know me joke about that.
I guess one needs to find people that he’s comfortable with. I still need to do the same.
Why would anyone define themselves? I certainly don’t. Definitions are rigid and rarely changing. Myself, I change every day, mostly little small changes but changes still. Even if I did define myself, it would only be a definition of today’s me, not tomorrow’s or the day after’s.
dynamicduo, the sole purpose of defining yourself is to know how far you know yourself well.. don’t take it superficially..
we all know that change is the only thing that is constant in this world right?
..we don’t always live by the book..
I’m unique, an Aquarian, honest, very sarcastic all the time, upright and uptight, middle of the road, compassionate, kind, unruly when needed, fun, happy go lucky, understanding, influential, meaningful, patient, and caring. Oh, I’m also unique too.
I repeat. Defining yourself is just way on how to reflect yourself..
How far you’ve gone. Come on, I mean don’t think it as a way of limiting yourself.
The point of this question is knowing how far YOU know yourself (ehem. as of this moment, we are excluding what the others think about you.. there are a lot of opinions right?)..
anyway. if don’t know what a johari window is, then you didn’t get the essence of the question.. (well, it depends on what you perceive about it..
I’m not sure there’s a character-limit for posts on fluther, but if I’m to sum up all I am/have been over the last 33 years, without generalising or limiting – I suspect I’d find out (but I’m so not doing that – today I am the embodiment of laziness!)
@dynamic – I don’t think there is anything wrong with defining yourself. We are constantly doing that. It is our way of relating to the world around us. By defining the experiences we have, we think about them, imagine possible other realities, connect to other people. Definition and language are what allow humans to have higher reasoning.
It may be difficult to clearly articulate exactly what it is that makes you you, but it never hurts to try. The problem arises when we let our labels define us, rather than the other way around.
Of course, this is coming from the girl who defines herself as “a chameleon” as if that is sufficient. Flutherites, feel free to ignore my ramblings. I’m feeling pretty out of it these days.
@shadling: hence my original answer – no harm in knowing how you relate or where you stand, but capturing and stating a definition has an element of limitation to it….it’s so definitive
Isn’t this just for fun? No one is going to hold you to it. Everyone knows that a few words do not a person make. No amount of words can be more than a pale reflection of the person. No need to be so serious about it.
there’s no harm in answering the question.
sorry but i only need your answer than your opinion about the question.
i guess i have to agree with daloon.
>shading: just be sure it still abides the guidelines of fluther. I, too, have learned my lesson. Anyway good luck to that, just be sure it doesn’t belittles anyone.
I shy away from discussing adjectives with anyone but my closest friends. I like to know myself, but when adjectives are used in a more public fashion, they are often understood in ways that I do not intend.
I agree with shadling, I am a chameleon, a different hue depending on who I am with and where I am at. and I can’t think of a good way to end that without the preposition. Maybe shadling doesn’t mean chameleon in that way, but I do.
I get along with people better in person than I do online, because facial expression and body language come into play.
@evelyns_pet_zebra – That’s what I meant only you said it better. It’s as if I adapt to every social situation by changing into different people. For a long while, it was unintentional, but when I realized what was happening, I began to use it to my advantage. The challenge is putting aside all these versions of myself to get to the real me.
Intertesting, @evelyns_pet_zebra. I get along with people better online than I do in person, because facial expression and body language get in the way.
my problem, laureth, with internet communication is people cannot hear me laugh or see the smile on my face, or the excitement in my voice when I am being silly. I find a sense of humor to be the sign of intelligence; to me laughter is as important as breathing, and should be done just as often. If I had a dollar for every time a silly comment was taken seriously, I could play poker with Bill Gates and not worry when he was winning.
@evelyns_pet_zebra: You’re right – textual humor is hard to understand online. If people aren’t thinking critically about what they read, miscommunication can easily happen.