This is actually the fourth anniversary of my first date with the guy I eventually married. :)
We met up at a bookstore and had coffee and chatted. It was going so well that we decided on the spot to lengthen the date by going out to dinner, and we ended up closing the restaurant! On the way out, we said we’d be in touch. We each went to our car, and I thought he didn’t like me because he didn’t seem too WOW’ed, ya know? And then he ran over from his car (as I was getting into mine) and said, “Um. Can I kiss you?” I said yes. It was an excellent kiss. The rest is history, as they say.
Just do what feels right. If it comes from your gut, it’s probably right. I found out later that we’d both wanted more on the first date, but delayed pushing things because we didn’t want it to be just another quick fling.
You can’t force chemistry that isn’t there. But it’s also hard to deny chemistry when it is there. And chemistry doesn’t obey rules, most of the time. ;)
So, maybe it’s not that both parties weren’t “feeling it,” maybe they were just both being really, really considerate. Sometimes it takes a few days to call, but if it takes more than that, I’d be wondering why. Was there a sense of smouldering interest under everything, or was it more detatched?
I think how women are “supposed” to behave – forward or not – is based on the individuals involved. Again, trust your gut. And good luck! :D