I flirt naturally, regardless of my relationship status at the moment. I think it’s a product of working in the food service industry for awhile (flirting = tips), but it’s also just a natural, easy confidence booster. Girls flirt when they feel like they look good and they feel like they’ve got something to show off. Every time I find myself flirting, I certainly am not looking to end up in bed with any and everyone I’m flirting with.
Here’s what Sex With Your Ex and 69 Other Things You Should Never Do by Yvonne K. Fullbright says about going after someone who is attached…
“Every now and then, you come across [someone] who is absolutely fabulous, and who is – no surprise – taken. Whether married, cohabiting, or in a relationship, it is best not to go after [them], no matter how much you find yourself lusting after, fantasizing about, or falling in love with [them]. Heed such warning even more if [they] are happy with [their] partner. Chasing after [them] or forcing yourself on [them] is only going to cause distress for you, for [them] and for [their] partner. No good comes out of it. Ever.
If you go after [them], you will be a certified home wrecker, and while you may have won the prize ([them]) temporarily, you won’t look like much of a prize when all the dust settles. Even if you don’t see it (or hear about it), others will fault you for being selfish and deliberately hurtful. So as tempted as you may be, just leave it alone. Distance yourself from [them] as much as possible, especially if you feel you’re falling in love with [them]. If you’re meant to be together, let [them] come to you – and only when [they are] a free agent. Tell [them] you’re not playing unless you’re the only two in the sandbox. Otherwise, go out and find a [partner] of your own. An eligible, unattached one.”