No one keeps a ‘normal 18” comfort distance’ on a date. And that’s not a normal comfort distance in NYC; sorry, I should have mentioned that. One can try and talk about that, but from my experience, when a person has non-verbal issues with physical contact, they’re not usually comfortable being confronted about it.
I don’t get the ‘o great one’ comment. Are you being sarcastic?
I’ll say right now, I’m not the slickest dating dude in the world, but I’m also not known for being rude, obtrusive or imposing. I’m basically nice. I can tell, however, when a person is uncomfortable, and I don’t like to freak them out. I asked here as a shot in the dark to try and get some feedback from anyone who might have had a similar experience, not because I want a quick fix to zoom into bed. She seems like a nice woman, but without physical comfort between the two of us, a relationship is just not going to get far.