@charliecompany34, not necessarily. I would testify to that.
<Thinking hard> I think that in some instances I was overwhelmed by a flood of feeling, which does often express itself in tears, and that the feeling was more emotional than physical.
I think there were also times when there was a painful contrast of some kind, a disparity between what was happening and what I truly wanted (e.g., I wanted him to love me and he didn’t, I wanted him to be someone else, I wanted us to feel good together even when we weren’t having sex) that kind of just hit me when my guard was down in those intense moments. I may have felt disappointed in some larger way and not particularly disappointed in his “performance.”
And it was probably in all cases my own head stuff, back when it was all so serious, and not anything he did or didn’t do during lovemaking.
This is all quite distant past. Now I am more apt to feel playful and laugh. Geriatric sex has a humor to it that you’re just not likely to appreciate before your time.