I’ve held grudges against a small handful of people in my life. I’d love to say that I didn’t hold any, at all, but I do hold one. I’d LOVE to let it go and each year, I’m getting closer, but it’s a biggie! I’m not sure if it’s a grudge, but it’s the one person that I’ll never be able to forgive.
One person, my ex, I spent YEARS hating him, holding a grudge…why? No matter what you think, IMO, holding a grudge does mean that somewhere you are burying feelings or holding some energy inside and it prevents you from really moving forward. It’s a silly waste of time.
What I’ve found to be better is to just not care. The people that I felt that way about, interactions are rare, if ever. If they occur – it’s over…for the nano second of my life it takes to interact, as soon as it’s over, it’s gone. I really just don’t care. I’m not going to spend my time thinking, plotting or caring. To much time wasted on someone that is just not in your life.