In my line a work (USMC) you don’t run into a lot of mature complete people. So finding a soul mate and a love of my life hasn’t been easy. It has been a rough road. Another problem was that I wasn’t mature and complete.
@rwiedeman to your point that any two mature, complete people can be soul mates. A soul mate is that person that goes beyond being able to live with a person, or be their partner, or their mate. It speaks of a pairing of souls. I have talked to many mature, complete women in my life and I guess I could have been in a relationship with them but it would have been a business relationship. Sure, we would have worked through misunderstanding maturely, we would have respected each other’s boundaries, life would be peaceful, but it wouldn’t be a soul mate relationship.
I have a relationship with someone I consider to be my soul mate and she matches me and complements me in every area. It is crazy and weird, and magical at the same time. Her rough road and mine both lead the the same beautiful place somehow. Whether the topic is relationship roles, sexual fantasies, parental roles, family goals, financial goals, temperature setting in the house, and the list goes on and on.
One of the key differences is that we are miles inside each other’s boundaries and moving closer to the core person the other person is every day.
Don’t get me wrong we are not identical, but complimentary in every area that we can find, before we met each other.
Before I met Madsmom1030 I would have told you that soul mate was a myth, a thing of legends and folklore. Now, I am a believer, because through no choice of my own, I found my soul mate.