sounds like a healthy plan essieness
lynne, if I get this right, they are still living together? You mention it as “his place” but mention “her room”. As far as the kids go, it’s not about not knowing. My daughter never remembers her parents being together. But it is important for me that she remembers who her mum is, even though she has never seen her and me in the same room together. Actually, this has been more important than you can imagine. Because when she is with her mum she is not even allowed to mention my name (they systematically beat her everytime she says the word “daddy”) whereas with me she is allowed to talk about her mother, or even call her is she wants to. And has a picture of her in her room, so overall she does not miss her presence.
Putting the pics for you to see sounds very probable. Yes, women can be devious (finally I have it in black and white by a woman herself! yeah!).
At the same time men are just as simple as any stereotype you’ve heard about us. If he says he never thinks about her, it’s probably because he doesn’t. And I’m sure you have nothing to fear, regardless of her motives. Though if they really are still living together (as I understand from your post), then maybe it’s time for him to physically move on.