Oh, these ideas that have been suggested work OK. But they are all under the heading of how to gracefully wash your hands of the distasteful homeless person who should go elsewhere for “professional help” and leave you alone.
There should be more ideas along this line – not just for my use, but as common knowledge for the use of many more people who are going to find themselves in this situation. No – I don’t plan on being a “victim.” I like to help out other people.
I’m sure others would also help others more personally if they had more templates about how this could be done more gracefully in a socially acceptable way. That’s why I see a need for it. I am just looking for more ideas of how people could effectively “sponsor” their disadvantaged friends in a constructive way rather than writing these people “off their list”.
So often, the “haves” tend to regard people who are unemployed as “too needy.” I’ve noticed there is an…ah…attitude problem that evolves when someone has made a differently lifestyle choice, even though the choice is temporary situation and is also a forced circumstance of “there but for fortune go you or I” sort of thing. People who are the “haves” get sort of…huffy…about continuing their relationship with people who have become disenfranchised into being the “have nots.” In a way, they are sort of, “envious” of the freedom of not having to pay rent, or something like that. Or suspicious about “those gypsies” or…something.
I’ve just had someone who makes three times the money I do get embarrassed and irritated at me because I did not want to shell out the bucks to buy food at a very, very expensive restaurant at a resort that we went to eat in a group of people. She said she was upset with me because I never have enough money to do those things, (and if I had money, I do not choose to spend it in this way) and so she felt I was obligating her to pay for me if she wanted me around as company in that situation. (Which I have not demanded, and I actually turned down the offer of a paid drink and a meal.) She complained later how she found herself not being comfortable with me declining to eat while she was eating, (although there was no requirement at the restaurant for each person to spend a certain amount and I offered a $3. tip at the end of the meal.) Although I offered the solution of me bowing out of accompanying her during such expensive activities in the future, I seem to have lost the friendship because of this, and I think this is quite unfortunate.
Does that answer your question?